May 9, 2013 13 Comments
Okay now I’m confessing to a poorly kept secret — I am a heterosexual black female who loves men and has achieved some modicum of success. So, now will President Obama, Bill Clinton and others give me a call for coming out and openly expressing my sexual preference?
Though I haven’t been asked and no sensible inquiring minds particularly want to know, suddenly everyone wants to tell that they are gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender or of some other sexual preference. Who truly cares?
My scientific brain has always appreciated that there are some who may come into the world with much sexual ambiguity such as the more than 10,000 hermaphrodites born annually. Whether homosexuality is genetic, a choice, or a trend is still debated in some scientific circles.
The thing which is most unsettling is the desire to overturn social policy based on so little outcome data but instituted simply because these are things people may want to do–from gay marriage, to their adoption of children, or making babies through often inconceivable measures with unclear legal ramifications. Is this not what is also being done on the legalization move for marijuana? This attitude follows the no-harm, no-foul logic.
There have been few reliable longitudinal studies to determine the negatives for others such as children who are brought into these situations. Appreciating that gays who adopt usually get older kids, hard to place infants, and those usually last picked, their willingness to engage in parenthood is often applauded. None the less are we looking at the evolution of childhood thinking and future choices which will be impacted by this move?
My psychological side of this brain is disturbed by the further negative impact of changing gender roles in undermining already fragile black families. With Lyndon Johnson’s push for a “Great Society” came the requirement that families not live as a unit with a man in the house if they were to receive public assistance. This has had a disproportionately negative effect on black families. With prison populations hitting black males hard, another segment of consorts is thereby again removed. The infiltration of drugs and that alternative, misogynist “gangsta” culture, which degrades women and uses them as pawns, further distances black men from black women. And now, the secret as well as black men in the closet are coming out, or remaining on the down-low, which may be perceived as another blow to viable relationships with these men, at the expense of black women. So where are the companions to be found for black women looking for a good straight man?
I have learned to accept that there are people in the world who don’t share my values, including some in my own family; but on this issue, I’m still sticking with the Torah and commandments handed down by God.
Dr. Ada M. Fisher is a physician, licensed teacher in secondary education—Mathematics and Science, former School Board Member and as well as the NC Republican National Committee Woman. Her book, Common Sense Conservative Prescriptions Solutions for What Ails Us, Book I may be ordered through any bookstore or purchased on line through Amazon.com or thecreatespaceStore.com or on Kindle. Contact her at P. O. Box 777; Salisbury, NC 28145; DrFisher@GETADOCTORINTHEHOUSE.com